Pick One, No. 11

Question 658: Rubik’s Cube or Magic 8-Ball? (and why…)

Goodness. I could never solve a Rubik’s Cube. I’m not sure if I’m spatially challenged or impatient, but my first efforts took too much effort and thought. (I do a word puzzle among several other online games every morning and compare the results with Timothy and Jim, who do the same games. One of those word puzzles requires more strategy than the others, and isn’t my strongest game.)

So of course, I’m choosing Magic 8-Ball. What exactly is it that I use my most creative time for? I choose words from millions of words and string them together into stories that bring people and events to life all by means of ideas in my head. Is it not in the very NAME of the object: MAGIC?

Let’s put that question to Magic 8-Ball.

The answer?

I rest my case.

ETA: Later edited to add this to my Numbers Photo Series as No. 11. Also it’s Pick One No. 11. See? Magic.

Pick One, No. 10

Question 1258: Violin or harp? (and why…)

I don’t know much about the harp. I’ve known two people in my life who played harp, and both of them were gifted. That being said, I’m picking violin. For one thing, I find its use in Western classical music beautiful, passionate, and haunting. But the violin is also used in country, jazz, blues, folk, Americana, and rock and roll, even if it’s called a “fiddle” in some of those genres. And a player can’t pick up a harp and dance around a stage but definitely can with a violin/fiddle.


Violin at approximately 1:4 scale.

Because of the violin’s versatility, I wrote a classical violinist turned blues fiddle player into the Neverending Saga. =)

Pick One, No. 9


Question 2386: Amethyst or aquamarine? (and why…)

Amethyst is a beautiful stone and a great one to use for its energy and attributes, but aquamarine is my birthstone, so what do you think?

These are different polished aquamarine stones, except I’d guess the class ring could be simulated/synthetic. I have raw aquamarine stones, too, so color variations don’t surprise me.

You don’t have to be a March baby to appreciate aquamarine. Here’s info from a quick Google search:

  • Aquamarine represents happiness, hope and everlasting youth. In ancient times, aquamarine was thought to protect those at sea.
  • Aquamarine is said to help you sift through energy and information, create mental clarity, and soothe an overactive mind; it’s even used to improve the intellect.
  • For feng shui practice, aquamarine crystal benefits revolve around the gemstone’s calming, balancing properties. And the blue-green color of aquamarine crystals is good for its ability to shield a home from bad energy.

Pick One, No. 8

Question 1574: Coloring book or paint by numbers? (and why…)

Coloring book. I never really liked doing paint by numbers, whereas coloring is a calming activity for me. The photo below from May of last year of my coloring book shelf is evidence of my interest in coloring, and there are more books now, they’re just in different places.

That being said, coloring really fell off over the past two to three months. I took a book with me one day in June when I had to sit in a waiting room for a long time, but I’d barely begun coloring the page when I felt “off.” That’s my term when I don’t feel well, but I can’t name any particular symptom. Like everyone else with a tendency to self-diagnose without any medical knowledge whatsoever, I decided one of my problems is my need for new glasses. I have a pair for computer work and a pair of bifocals that I use when I drive and sometimes when I watch TV. I know I need new computer glasses, and it seems more than coincidental that the “off” feeling frequently happens when I’m using the bifocals.

Today I finally scheduled and went to my eye exam. Though I’m a lot poorer, both pairs of new glasses will be ready for me to pick up in seven to ten days. Both eyes had changed. This is one of the health things I try to stay on top of because that’s really important for someone with diabetes, and I was overdue. The news about my overall eye health is all good. I’m glad to have done it and hopeful that the new prescriptions will help get rid of the “off” feeling.

Pick One, No. 7

Question 2981: Lemon pie or lemon bars? (and why…)

Definitely will go with lemon pie on this one, but it needs to be lemon ice box pie and not lemon meringue pie. I’m not a fan of meringue or the custardy texture of lemon meringue pie, and honestly, isn’t lemon ice box pie more like an ice cream, and who doesn’t like ice cream?

Today, for the first time, I made a lemon pound cake. It was kind of cool because Lynne called me just as I poured it in the dish to bake, and a few minutes after I put it in the oven, I was all, “Eep! I forgot to set the timer!” And she said, “We’ve been on the phone nine minutes.” Way to come through, Lynne. Then I told her I’d never made a glaze before, but I had the powder for a lemon glaze in a packet, so she talked me through how to make a glaze. Always make sure you have a friend who knows her or his way around a kitchen.

Fresh out of the oven.

With the glaze.

Tom and I each had a slice after dinner and liked it, so he delivered a slice to Debby and a slice to Tim. I was texting Tim later and said that next time, I’m buying a lemon so I can make some lemon zest to put on the glaze, and he said he had a lemon and had already decided to do that. I think that will add an inviting scent and taste.

So yay, something creative and new on lucky 2/2/22.

Pick One, No. 6

Question 499: Sketch pad or coloring book? (and why…)


I’ll begin with this photo of a shelf on my craft wall in the office. Everything on that shelf, whether upright or lying down, between the books with spiral binding, is a coloring book, except one (with green binding). The books with spiral binding are sketchbooks. One of those was begun by our late friend Steve R. One is Tom’s sketchbook. Several on the right contain coloring pages done by other people and by me. The rest of the sketchbooks except that one with the green binding are empty.

I think it’s clear that I love to color since I have far more coloring books than sketchbooks (and actually, those aren’t all of the coloring books. There are more in other parts of the house). I think coloring is creative, but only in the sense of picking colors and using them for contrast or for surprise or for shading. The picture being colored was created by someone else.

Like this unicorn. Drawn by someone else; colored by me.

I like to create from scratch when I write. I may do a lot of research, but my actual writing process is organic. I don’t struggle over plot or description or narrative or dialogue as I write. It flows, and when it stops flowing, I stop writing. The harder work comes in the editing, but the act of putting the story into words comes from some subconscious part of my brain.

Likewise, when I paint, it’s mostly about color and shape. I don’t think a lot or analyze it, I just do it. Here’s an example.


“Uplift,” from my One Word Art series. I understand perfectly why I picked these colors and painted it the way I did, and why that word is the one I chose for it. But I don’t think I could ever explain it in words that would make sense. Just as with the act of writing, how I put color on canvas is organic and intuitive.

I use that same intuitive process when I color, even though I didn’t create the picture. The HUGE difference between coloring and creating is that I think very little about the act of coloring before, during, or after I do it. When I color, my brain is completely free to go wherever it wants to. I could be making a grocery list, mentally replaying a conversation I had, thinking about what I’m writing and structuring a chapter or delving into the personality and motivation of a character, accessing a million memories of friends, events, family, the trajectory of my life… You get the idea. Coloring is relatively mindless and is therefore extremely calming, along with providing that head space.

Except for the little sketches I’ve done and shared here using the tag “wee sketches,” I’ve never used but one sketchbook for sketching (the one with the green binding), and that has almost all been celebrity faces that intrigued me. I’ve never done a still life or sketched a place–or anything like all those other people’s drawings in my coloring books. I’ve also tried to sketch some friends, but ultimately, I find sketching dissatisfying because not only is it hard for me, it requires so much concentration that I start feeling tense. I don’t see any life in the sketches I do (and whether I’m sketching celebrities or someone I know, I work from photographs. I’d never sketch anyone in person).

I posted a small detail once of someone I was sketching and people had good things to say about it. But I only posted the eyes, I think, because mouths seem to defy me. Plus the commenters didn’t know who the celebrity was I was drawing, so they had no idea if it was at all accurate.

I think I’ll continue to stick with writing for creating, coloring for relaxing, and hopefully more painting because it combines a little of both. Just for fun, here are three sketches from the book with the green binding. They were all done in the early 1990s, and I think my light touch with the sketch pencil is indicative of my lack of confidence in what I was doing.

Pick One, No. 5

Question 1549: TGI Friday’s or Chili’s? (and why…)

Despite the fact that the entertainment industry tried to ruin T.G.I. Friday’s for me by combining it in the movie Cocktail with one of my least favorite Beach Boys songs and someone who hovers near the top of my least favorite actors, I will choose it hands down over Chili’s for a number of reasons.

First, it’s the restaurant that helped put Tom through college (he was employed as a cook) and when he graduated from college and couldn’t find a job, they happily took him back to work as a cook again while we were newlyweds until he began his career in Houston. We moved to Houston, but we still ate at Friday’s, and there was one in the area where we lived in the ‘burbs.

Second, fried mozzarella. The first I ever had, it’s still my favorite version of that appetizer, but kudos to other restaurants and fast food establishments for realizing Friday’s had a winner and stealing the concept.

Third, a dish I think they no longer serve, Mushrooms, Steak, and Mushrooms. The steak, likely a tenderized sirloin, was topped with sautéed mushrooms and onions and then covered in melted mozzarella, and included in the sides were battered and fried button mushrooms. Since I like mushrooms, this was a favorite. On our wedding day, we had to make ourselves scarce after the ceremony so the church/reception area could be returned to order and my family could move the party to our hotel rooms. In the interim, Tom and I went by Friday’s, they treated us to a very late lunch, and MSM was my dish.


The Friday’s matchbook is in a journal I began for all the matchbook covers I’d once planned to put in a collage and never did. Eventually, I plan to write a blurb about each place–my memories of why it was special or who took me there first or which friend made it a regular place or a treat with me. I’m quite surprised I don’t have a matchbook cover for Chili’s, because of course I’ve eaten there, but it fell out of favor with me because they stopped serving the main entree I liked and they are compelled to spice up everything. I understand. This is Texas, and most people don’t think they’ve had a meal unless their tongues are on fire afterward. Unfortunately, I’m not one of those people and don’t enjoy spicy food.


Other chains I went to included Ruby Tuesday’s and Bennigan’s. I do have a matchbook for Bennigan’s. Though there are still some franchised Bennigan’s, the locations I used to go to must have been corporately owned, because those were all closed several years ago. I’d read in 2019 that they were talking about a comeback, but let’s just say these horrific numbers

2-0-2-0,

and figure it didn’t happen.

I loved the Galleria Bennigan’s, but I have no idea if it was the food, location, service, or the company. It’s the place where Denece and I used to meet and talk for hours. I’m not even kidding. She would tell the waitstaff up front, “We will be using your table for three to four hours, but we are not high-maintenance and we will tip you well.” Since we were usually there just after the lunch rush and into the slower afternoon hours, they didn’t mind and always took good care of us. After Bennigan’s closed, Denece and I began having those long conversations by phone every few weeks. You just can’t analyze and find solutions for all the problems in the damn world in less than three or four hours.

President-elect Biden, Denece and I are available by phone if you need us.

Pick One, No. 4

Question 1733: Charm or I.D. bracelet? (and why…)

On, so very easy for me. There’s nothing wrong with an I.D. bracelet. In fact, probably there have been times when I was called Betty and Betsy and Peggy and Debby that it would have been nice to hold up a bracelet that proclaimed, “BECKY,” and say, “Talk to the wrist.”

Names are good, especially if you like yours and it has meaning for you.

But it’s charms, for this Aries…


Charms are places I’ve been, things I’ve seen. Dreams I’ve dreamed. People I’ve known who have loved me and who I have loved. They are my novels and my characters. Symbols with meanings for me. My varied interests: quirky, true, and passionate.

Microcosms, those bracelets, and I have a baseball in a little gold box that still needs to go on one of my character bracelets.


I have this sweet bracelet, too, that belonged to my mother. For many years, it had a charm for each of her first four grandchildren: Daniel, Josh, Sarah, Gina. One of the times she lived here, I was able to find a company that sold a similar one for her to add her fifth grandchild, Aaron.

Definitely charms.

Pick One, No. 3

Question 1794: Yearbook club or student council? (and why…)

I wan’t a member of either group, but this is a no-brainer if you seek power in high school. Student council is relatively toothless and is subject to the whims and decisions of the faculty and administration. Sure, it might look good to have been on student council when you’re applying for college, but in the end, so what? I can’t remember a single one of our student council presidents or members.

What I can remember is getting each year’s yearbook to see what everybody’s horrible school photos looked like. To see how many times a given person was in candid shots. Because frankly, nobody has power equal to that of the yearbook photographers. If they liked you, you were golden. You looked good in your photos and those were included liberally among yearbook pages.

If they didn’t like you–or even if they didn’t know who TF you were–you ended up with shit like this for posterity.

Pick One, No. 2

Question 548: Facebook or Instagram (and why…)

It’s no secret I’m not a Facebook fan. After the 2016 election, I unfriended everyone except my writing partners, and the only reason I kept the account is because Tim and I share a writers’ page on there. I never close the door on editing another anthology with him, should the opportunity arise.

Please note, I didn’t unfriend everyone because of the people whose views differ from mine, including friends and family members who voted for Trump. I didn’t want to read anyone’s views on politics after that election. If I want that, I go to Twitter in very limited doses, mostly to find out what people are talking about, then I go elsewhere to get a more in-depth story.

The only thing I miss about Facebook is the posts of my nieces and nephews and grand-nieces and grand-nephews. Most of them ended up on Instagram, where I’d already had an account.

As for Instagram, even though I know it’s owned by Facebook, which I have distanced myself from even further over the last four years, it’s about people’s photos and not about their text. Some of the accounts I follow are very political, but I only follow the ones that won’t agitate me. I think I probably got an Instagram account because Aaron had one, and he introduced me to the app.

What I most enjoy are the photographic glimpses into their lives that people provide. The stuff that bores some people doesn’t bore me. I like their animals, their meals, their homes, what they see on any given day, their art, their kids, their music (both what they compose and what they listen to), the books they read, the places they travel, their lives. I like the visuals and appreciate their willingness to share. Plus I have fun with my own account on Instagram. I practically stopped using my camera when I was taking several hundred rescue animal photos a week, so the phone camera became a quick and easy way for me to record what I’m doing. The same way this blog has served as a kind of memoir since 2004, Instagram has provided a visual memoir since 2012.

I think this is my first Instagram post on April 14, 2012, Pixie and Penny on our bed at The Compound.