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“Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies.”–Aristotle

What is more powerful than falling in love? Watching someone you love fall in love. Being witness to love’s beginning. Being present to see love deepen and manifest itself in a thousand big and small moments. Seeing “joy” and “unconditional” and “unselfish” become not just words that are easy to say, but actions that require thought, commitment, and responsibility.

Love changes the person you thought you knew. If you already believed that he was one of the best and brightest individuals you’d ever met, you come to see that love gives him new depth, greater potential, more honor, and a fierce ability to cope with challenges.

Today, someone I love coped with a devastating challenge without sparing himself any of the hurt that is sometimes a part of love. A moment like this can leave a person feeling alone and like there is less of him. But he is greater than he has ever been, and he is not alone. This love is part of his soul and will be a companion to him every day–for always.

Confidential to Lisa in Iowa

Before I start this entry…

Whenever I say “confidential to…” or read the same title in Tim’s LJ, it makes me laugh. How pathetic is that? Clearly, I’m just one step away from watching and extolling the virtues of movies like Dumb & Dumber. Which I haven’t seen, so maybe it’s brilliant.

Okay, one other digression. Why don’t I like Jim Carrey when he’s trying to be funny? Because over all, when he brings it down a notch or twenty, I think he’s talented. But when he’s consciously funny, it’s in that Jerry Lewis way that makes me want to slap him. I wonder what they think of Jim Carrey in France?

Lisa, you asked about the novel I’m working on. It’s a departure for me, because the main character is a straight woman. Since I am a straight woman, this should be a snap, right? It’s not. Mainly because it’s a Christmas romance about a woman in her twenties. Of course, since I perpetuate the myth that I’m 35, that part shouldn’t be too much of a stretch. However, I have a love/hate relationship with Christmas. And with romance, for that matter. But I’m making that work for me in the story. So far, though, no way to work the camels in, dammit. It’ll be out the end of this year, so you can bet when I’m sure of the title and other details, I’ll be posting about it nonstop on here.

Day 3

Day 3 of migraine. Actually, it hasn’t been so bad this time. Maybe because I’ve kept myself mostly knocked out on drugs? The pain is there, but dull. By tomorrow, I should feel it vanishing. The worst part is that I can’t write while I have a migraine, because I can’t manage the focus that writing requires of me.

What I do know is that my headache wasn’t helped by a thing that happened to Tim. I admit that sometimes, we writers can be a bitter bunch when it comes to other peoples’ successes, but trust me on this, I rejoice in every good thing that happens to Tim. Not just because I love him so much, or because I’ve worked with him for so long, but because I think he’s a good writer. It’s been my privilege to have been there from his first attempts that grew into the published works he has today. It’s been amazing to learn more about writing–the craft and the profession–by the discoveries we make with each other. I want him to have a long, successful career and get the readers he so richly deserves.

And mostly, I wanted other people to enjoy “The Dance,” because they could add their voices to mine when I nag Tim and say, “Please write an entire Andrew and David book, because I MUST KNOW MORE about them.”

It’ll happen. I believe.

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