A great few days


My brother David has been here since last week, and his visit has been so enjoyable. Pictured here are David and Lisa, Aaron’s parents, next to Aaron’s memory garden.

If you’ve visited this site over the last week or so, you may have read entries that were “letters” to people related to the past. Writing them felt very liberating, and once accomplished, I made those posts private. I’ve replaced the missing posts from those dates mostly with photos.

For those of you who read along and commented, I can still see the private posts and our comments, and I appreciate your thoughts.

Sunday Sundries


I don’t think I’ve ever featured this book on here before, though I see it’s in a shot of a group of journals and other books I took in June of 2021, so it’s been around a while. The Magic of Mindset is a journal, by Johanna Wright, to be written in, so if I had filled in any of the pages (I haven’t), it’s likely what I wrote would be too private to share.


That’s still true with the page I’m featuring, where under the title “Expect Resistance,” a girl meeting a dragon says, “Oh, hi.” The text on the accompanying page says, “RESISTANCE is A NORMAL PART OF THE PROCESS. LIST all of the REASONS WHY IT FEELS impossible TO LET GO OF YOUR OLD MINDSET AND MOVE OUT OF the stuck PLACE.

Those little items on the plate are like small talismans (crystal ball held in cupped palms; a wee dachshund carved of wood; a soapstone container, lid off, to show a variety of tiny stones; a small river rock in the shape of a heart; a sunflower incense burner holding a stick of sandalwood incense) that are either from or reference people, all a part of my history, who at one time or another were a force that could either subdue my voice or inspire and encourage it.

Relationships are complicated, and more than once, I’ve allowed them to block the flow of my creative energy. This time, I want to face that dragon and make a choice truer to myself.

This week’s theme may be arriving organically on each new day.

How do we make love stay?


Let’s begin with this photo of my Dan Fogelberg 1983 Greatest Hits album that was lost in the Harvey flood. I’m pretty sure I have all his work that was drowned on the CD collection I bought, but it’ll never be the same as lying in a candlelit room and listening to the albums, staring at his photo on the cover, and traveling through all the journeys he took me to all the places in my imagination.

Though it was an album of greatest hits, it also had a couple of new songs on it, and one of those was “Make Love Stay.” I wondered from the first moment I heard it if it was inspired by Tom Robbins’s novel Still Life With Woodpecker. Of all his novels, this is one of two that I’ve read so many times they have a permanent residence in my brain. Because of this book, for years, I kept a sealed pack of Camel cigarettes in one desk drawer after another in every home, school, and business office I was in.

From the novel, this excerpt:


“Who knows how to make love stay?”

1. Tell love you are going to Junior’s Deli on Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn to pick up a cheesecake, and if loves stays, it can have half. It will stay.

2. Tell love you want a memento of it and obtain a lock of its hair. Burn the hair in a dime-store incense burner with yin/yang symbols on three sides. Face southwest. Talk fast over the burning hair in a convincingly exotic language. Remove the ashes of the burnt hair and use them to paint a mustache on your face. Find love. Tell it you are someone new. It will stay.

3. Wake love up in the middle of the night. Tell it the world is on fire. Dash to the bedroom window and pee out of it. Casually return to bed and assure love that everything is going to be all right. Fall asleep. Love will be there in the morning.”

Though I can in no way approach the kind of writing Tom Robbins creates, I know with every fiber of my being that the heart of one character I created would sing when he read this–and he’d read it over and over.

I think that passage probably had that same effect on Dan Fogelberg. In his own words:

Fogelberg later described “Make Love Stay” in the liner notes to a retrospective album as a “sinuous piece written around a chapter of Tom Robbins’ Still Life with Woodpecker”and as “a musical question that, unfortunately, eludes me still.”

Hamsa hand symbolism


This incense burner, a “Hamsa” hand (smaller than most adult human hands), is rarely far from me. As you can see, each finger has a place for an incense stick, and on the surface, in the middle of the eye, is a place for cone incense. The incense I most often use is the traditional Nag Champa, but that company also produces other scents, including sandalwood and patchouli.

Info compiled from the Internet about the Hamsa hand:

The Hamsa hand is an open right hand with five digits. Especially popular in the Middle East and North Africa, its exact origin is unknown. Its use predates Islam and Judaism in the Middle East.

The earliest known appearance of the Hamsa was in ancient Mesopotamia (modern-day Iraq area). Here, it could be seen in amulets worn by some female goddesses. It’s theorized it spread to Egypt as a two-finger amulet representing Osiris and Isis. It then began spreading to various religions in several different forms, including Buddhism and Hinduism.

Depending on who you ask, the Hamsa may mean different things, but its symbology means specific things to Hindus and Buddhists. For them, it symbolizes the interplay of the chakras (from a Sanskrit term meaning wheels or focal points of the body that are used as part of meditation, yoga, and other practices); the energy flow in the body; the five senses; and the mudras (mudra is a Sanskrit term meaning “gesture”) that affect them.

All of these can be combined to change the flow of energy in the body and heal psychological and physical ailments. In Buddhism, the Hamsa symbolizes the chakras to a lesser extent, but the mudras are nonetheless important. Often times, the Hamsa is used to ward off what’s known as “the evil eye,” the sum of destructive energies that come from negative emotions in the world.

Sunday Sundries

Symbols: Portent or Promise?


Tools: Colette Baron Reed’s The Good Tarot deck; a crystal ball; wooden box of coins, including a “Walking Liberty” half-dollar; five randomly rolled dice show a one, two fours, a six, and a two; a three card spread: “Messenger of Earth”; 10: “Fortune’s Wheel”; 7: “Chariot.”

From Lisa Dyer’s 321 Creative Writing Prompts journal, below is a writing prompt for you. Feel free to use the items from the fortuneteller’s table. You can also ask me questions about the three specific cards in the spread.

Photo Friday, No. 946

Current Photo Friday theme: Edges.


Mendocino, California, 1998, shot on film

Three Voices At The Edge

In Mendocino’s morning mist
Where time collides with memory
Voices sing from hissing surf
Muse: We live on the edge of a body of water
Maiden rewrites her lyric:
He is dead and gone, lady,
He is dead and gone.
But at his head no grass-green turf,
At his heels no stone.

Maestro: How deep is the ocean
How deep is the ocean
I’ve lost my way

© Becky Cochrane, 2025

Sunday Sundries

Things that inspire me.


Clockwise from bottom left: Crystal “create” stone from Timmy. Other stones: carnelian, the creative powerhouse; citrine, the light of inspiration; quartz crystal seer stone egg. Essential oils; pictured here: lavender. Stars and candlelight. Joseph Fasano’s The Magic Words: Simple Poetry Prompts That Unlock The Creativity in Everyone. Electric and acoustic guitars at 1:6 scale and an enamel pin showing a drum kit to represent music and musicians. Fine art, represented by postcard books with selected Mark Rothko paintings and selections from The Art of Florence.

I chose to take a poetry prompt from Fasano’s book about a new year.

Here’s how I wrote the poem.

New Year Poem: A Visitor
While everyone is counting in the year,
their hands full of confetti,
their eyes full of clocks,
I will do it differently:
I will walk out purposefully through the noise
and sit alone beneath the trees
and wait for you, muse.
Quietly, quietly, I will wait.
And if you come, if you speak,
if you reveal your wish,
I will hear.
I will be there.

©Becky Cochrane, January 2025


Happy New Year confetti from Geri (part of what inspired me).

The Muse and The Time Traveler

I pulled out all the tiles from my Magnetic Poetry® Wood Words box. From the moment I began to assemble my poem from among them, I knew exactly who and what inspired it. When I placed a specific word, I also knew what photo from my archives I hoped to find to share with the finished poem.


From September 2009, based on a challenge from television’s “Project Runway” for my website’s “Runway Monday” series, I found her. She’s in fashion I designed for her of silk, satin, polyester, tulle, and crepe. A sheer coincidence only a handful of people will understand: I’d named this doll Maggie and said she was dressed as a Time Traveler. I’m grateful to my Muse and this Mattel Model Muse doll. I hope she likes the role she plays. There’s no role I’d rather have in my world than writer.

Here’s her poem, destined to be named “Time Traveler.”

©Becky Cochrane, 2025

Today is the anniversary of the date Riley died in 2008. The L.A. fires and their consequences have kept me emotional for the last week already, so this year, Riley’s loss feels a little sharper. The other night, Tom and I watched The Last Waltz, which I haven’t seen probably since the late seventies, when it was released. I still remembered the songs, the performers (band members and musical guests), and some of the conversations with members of The Band as they talked about how the concert (the focus of the film, as directed by Martin Scorsese) was bringing to an end their sixteen years of performing on the road.

Though most of the members worked together again, they never again performed live as a group with Robertson. Now all are gone, except for keyboardist Garth Hudson, who’s 87 and has been reported as a resident in an assisted living facility since 2022, when his wife Maud died. ETA: Garth Hudson died on January 21, five days after this post.

  • Richard ManuelDied in 1986 at the age of 42 
  • Rick DankoDied in 1999 at the age of 55 
  • Levon HelmDied in 2012 at the age of 71 
  • Robbie RobertsonDied in 2023 at the age of 80

I think the footage of The Band singing with Bob Dylan got to me the most, maybe because Riley loved him so much and considered him a songwriting muse. I had a lump in my throat listening to “Forever Young” and “I Shall Be Released.” So many memories. In an alternate life, Riley and I might have ended up in L.A., friends sharing a house in a neighborhood like Altadena, while I pursued all the things that would have informed my fiction and he played everywhere anyone wanted to hear a guitarist, pianist, and songwriter. I’m not sure either of us ever wanted fame and fortune as much as the chance to create and be true to ourselves. Riley did play all over the Southeast (I’m not sure about his time in Nevada), and he wrote a lot of songs. I never lived further west than Texas, but I’ve had fiction published, and what I’m working on now includes real settings (many of them decimated by the fires) and celebrates my fictional artists (none of them native-born Angelenos) of Los Angeles.

I’m so grateful for the years of friendship Riley and I shared. Though we aren’t the Muse and Time Traveler of the poem, Riley’s part of why they exist.

Mindful Monday


I love the color of this box. I like the design carved into the top with its feather motif.

I even love the bottom of the box, which emphasizes its strong red pattern in the wood stain.

What lives inside the box: heart-shaped cutouts. Most of them have what I call “Angel Affirmations.” I think the feather design is the reason this is the box I chose to store them.

The instructions tucked inside describe how I used these Angel Affirmations, and the first line explains why I chose to share this on Mindful Monday.

Think of only today…
Light a cone of sandalwood incense…
Center yourself with deep breathing…
Surround yourself with white light…
Take any heart and apply it to today’s situation…
Trust yourself…

Here are the words from the one I pulled. Maybe it will mean something to you today.

To match the mood, here’s some of the metaphysical music I was listening to while I wrote at the end of last week:

Tommy Greer’s ‘Angel’s Kiss’ 1995; Steven Halpern’s ‘Gifts of the Angels’ 1994
Steven Halpern’s ‘Chakra Suite’ 2001; Dean Evenson’s ‘Forest Rain’ 1993; Nature Quest’s ‘Andrew Lloyd Webber: Naturally’ 1995; Erik Berglund’s ‘Harp Of The Healing Light’ 1999