30 Days of Creativity 2011, Day 9

The five senses are a vital part of a writer’s bag of tricks when transporting readers to an imaginary world. If you want to know how powerful a hold your senses have on you, take a page from Keri Smith’s This Is Not a Book. Or two pages, to be exact:

I randomly picked five things I had at hand to see what the sense of them might evoke.

Scent. A bottle of Chanel N° 5. Though I no longer enjoy perfume as much as I once did, this remains my favorite of them all. It’s a classic. I have received Chanel N° 5 twice in my life. The first bottle was from a man who broke my heart with lies. I have long ago forgiven the damage, but in my memory, he has no room lined with affection or colored by good times. I rarely reminisce about him to others. If I think of him, it’s most often with disappointment in myself for being gullible. This bottle is the second I was given, by a man who was my friend. He also broke my heart. I never forgave him because there was nothing to forgive. He was ill when he said and did cruel things. This perfume is seventeen years old. He has been dead sixteen years. I think of him with love and compassion. I tell stories about him, and even the sad ones remind me how deeply our friendship ran. The perfume no longer smells the way it should. Life doesn’t always treat us the way it should. But some things are better held close than others.

Sound. A bell, on a cord, with a plaid ribbon. This bell is the sound of Christmas to me. Throughout my life, I’ve had a love/hate relationship with Christmas. When I was given the chance to write a Christmas romance by Kensington, I muttered to Tim, “I hate Christmas,” and he said, “There’s your first line.” I still don’t embrace the holiday with the fervor of many people I know, but it was certain friends’ love for the season that finally made me surrender and make the best of it. One of those friends is Lynne, and probably twenty years ago, she made bells for a few of us to wear at one of her Christmas parties. Every year that I’m in Houston, we spend either Christmas Eve or Christmas Day out at Green Acres with Lynne and her family, and I always wear this. I suppose when it comes to time with friends, peace on earth, or pictures of snowy landscapes, I say, “More Christmas bell!”

Sight. Gold wedding band. This is the wedding band my father gave my mother when they married in 1947. It did have a pattern on it, but those lines were worn smooth many years ago. When I was growing up, she never took off this ring. Even when she had surgery, she made them tape it rather than remove it. When my father came back from one of his overseas tours, he brought her a new diamond and wedding band from Japan. She wore that set sometimes, but sooner or later, this ring always returned to her finger. Same thing a few years later, when she picked out a platinum solitaire and band. She wore it most of the time, but now and then went back to this one. Ultimately, she gave the other sets away to children or grandchildren, but this one stayed with her until she died, even if she didn’t always wear it after my father died. She made me promise that no jewelry would be buried with her. I’m glad she insisted on that, because I don’t think anything that belonged to either of my parents holds as much value to me as this ring. If I close my eyes and see her hands sewing, cooking, gesturing as she told a story, lighting a cigarette, opening a purse, resting on my father’s shoulder, holding a grandchild–the ring is always there.

Taste. I chose these jelly beans made by SweeTarts not because they’re a favorite of mine, but because every time I see them, I go right back to being a young teen again. The Susans (there were two), Lynne, and I would buy those ginormous SweeTarts and hold them in our mouths as long as we could without biting them. They were as tart as their name, and eventually, the inside of my cheek would feel raw from them, or the sugar would make me choke. But thinking about those sensations makes me remember sitting by a swimming pool, or lying out in the yard slathered in baby oil mixed with iodine, trying to get a tan, then running through sprinklers to get cool. SweeTarts are hot days, giggling girls, newly mown grass, chlorine, and drawing up our mouths from that sweet and sour combination.

Touch. It’s been said that no person can have a good day in uncomfortable shoes. These Barbie shoes represent the mystery that is fashion to me: How can women wear the crazy shoes they choose? Then again, I remember my first pair of high heels. My first pair of platform shoes. My most expensive pair of heels. The shoes that I squeezed my feet into for too many years before I decided that nothing was worth being that uncomfortable. However, though I haven’t worn heels since the 1980s, I still understand the way even the most unfashionable of us (me!) reconsider and think that the pinch, the rub, the ache, the risk, the strain, just might be worth it for that OMG-gorgeous-pair-of-shoes-at-Nordstrom. ON SALE!

30 Days of Creativity 2011, Day 4

I have a large trunk in my guest room that contains a lot of my mother’s photos and a few other items. When I was looking for pictures for the post I did on June 1, I opened one of the albums from the trunk and found a cross-stitch she created. I think I remember seeing it before–it’s her birth date–but what I hadn’t realized was that another piece was stuck to the back–my father’s birth date cross-stitched. I think she never tried to mat and frame these because they’re an irregular size, one is slightly larger than the other, and they’re not placed on the aida cloth in a way that’s optimal for framing.

I studied them for a while, knowing that I could have them professionally matted and framed. But I wanted something softer and a little less “perfect” than a mat would be. I finally settled on ribbon. They turned out exactly the way I wanted them to. Wish she could see them!

The mother of them all

My mother died on June 1, 2008. I think about her every single day. I remember her stories of growing up. Our family of five that turned into in-laws, out-laws, grandkids, great-grandkids. I remember her, flaws and all, and understand her and forgive her and celebrate her and miss her. And I love her.

I think what she loved most, from the beginning of her life until its end, was babies. Any baby would make her smile, and the babies in our family were her greatest joy. She understood far more about all of our natures than we sometimes understood ourselves. And she loved us, flaws and all, and forgave us and celebrated us. Regardless of how much she might scold us, she was fiercely loyal to us. That is a trait I try to emulate when it comes to family. I am so grateful for every member of the generations of our family that she and my father began when they fell in love.


Mother and David.
Debby, Mother, and me.
With Daniel.

With Josh.
With either Sarah or Gina.
Also Sarah or Gina.

Sarah? Gina?
With Daniel.
With Daddy, Josh, Daniel, and each grandparent has a twin granddaughter.

Watching Dave.
Also Dave.

Three generations of Cochrane boys, and Aaron's brother, Alex.
I think this is Aaron.

This is probably Aaron.
I believe she's with Steven here.

With Camden.

With Gina, Eric, and baby Morgan.

Some extras:


I think this is the summer before my senior year of high school. I have my hair rolled on orange juice cans, probably.

Sisters! Me, Debby, and Terri

Birthday carnage

Our late dog Pete was not known for his kind disposition. In fact, he never met a person he wouldn’t contemplate biting. Two stints in obedience school never affected him, though if Tom and I are ever commanded to walk on a leash, sit, stay, heel, leave it, or lie down, we’ll get gold stars. We are also clicker trained, thanks to Margot.

Still, there were people Pete tolerated better than others–and there were two who sent him into a rage. The first of these was my nephew Josh. No one understood why my nephew Daniel could walk up and Pete would glance over and say, “Yeah, whatever,” then charge Josh with the full fury of his ten pounds.

To commemorate this family conflict, my sister (Josh’s mother) once gave us a little plastic dachshund wearing a red cape, carrying a pitchfork, and sporting devil horns. Thursday night, I made Pete’s Mini Me the center of a birthday cake for the other person who brought out Pete’s not-so-inner demon: Tim.

Here’s what the cake looked like:


Note to Jim: See, I do use that vase for flowers, even when you’re not here.

I made one of Tim’s favorite meals, pot roast, and we were joined by Lynne, Minute, and Paco for dinner, cake, and gift opening.

Tim blows!

Later, Lynne demonstrated Pete’s Take-No-Prisoners approach to life.

Even though the cake was a bit decimated, Rhonda and Lindsey were able to join us at the end of the evening to enjoy a slice and add to Tim’s birthday celebration.

Thank you, everybody, for helping make Tim’s birthday festive! And Pete, wherever you are, I’m sorry no one bit him on the ankle for you. Maybe next year.

Call me, call me any time (call me)

I still remember the first time I saw Debbie Harry and Blondie on TV. Regardless of what heights she achieved in the rock and roll pantheon, to me she’ll always be that adorably quirky girl who nearly tripped on her microphone cord while performing on Midnight Special in… Oh, it matters not what year. I think Lynne and I were something like two at the time (she was watching with me).

I got Mattel’s Debbie Harry Barbie for a steal on eBay because she didn’t arrive with her clothes or accessories. No biggie that she is sans pink vinyl dress. I’ll design a whole new look for her soon, I hope.

Animal print fabric gift of Marika.

Cinnamon Girl

Even though I stole my title from Neil Young, his is not the youtube video I’m linking at the end of this post. When I was shooting my cereal photo this morning, I ruminated on cinnamon. I have a love/hate relationship with this spice. I like the occasional cinnamon toast, but sometimes the scent of cinnamon repulses me. There is at least anecdotal evidence that cinnamon helps improve insulin sensitivity, meaning it can be good for metabolizing sugar (a plus for people who have diabetes). So we’ve been watching for cereals in the health food aisle that include a dusting of cinnamon.

Last week, I found a healthy kids’ cereal–you know it’s for kids because there are bunny shapes in it. Adults know bunnies are killers.


If only Monty Python had known how raspberries, blueberries, blackberries, and a little milk render bunnies harmless. Speaking of the British, that coffee mug (from Puterbaugh) is a London Underground Map mug. Mind the Gap!

This week, Tom found a cereal of oat flakes with pecans and cinnamon.


I like the color of the blueberries and strawberries with the yellow bowl. I bought that bowl a couple of years ago at a thrift store, intending it to be a gift to a Pyrex collector I know. But it has a sunflower lid, so I selfishly held on to it. That’s an Irish coffee mug, but there’s only a little shot of chocolate in my iced coffee–no whiskey.

As I was shooting the photo and thinking about cinnamon, I remembered a song that a childhood friend, Susan B (more Lynne’s friend than mine) used to love. I looked for it on youtube and was charmed by this video someone made to go with it–oh, the days of 45 records piled high on the record player. Enjoy!