Legacy Writing 365:41

When she was four and her mother told her that Tom and I lost both of our dachshunds within five days of each other, she wanted to do something to make us feel better. Her mother went online and found dachshund illustrations to print so she could color and send them to us. She came up with the stained glass effect on her own. The coloring she used on the dogs makes them look very much like our pups, and these drawings have been displayed in our house ever since.

When she was twelve, after my mother’s memorial service, more than 30 adults and 12 kids gathered at a restaurant. The restaurant had set up a long table for the kids, and without being asked, she and my nephew Aaron (who was 14) took charge of the kids’ table, keeping them occupied with colors and conversation so the grown-ups could talk. They probably never knew that I noticed, but I did, and appreciated their thoughtfulness so much.

When she was fourteen and Tom and I got to spend a week with family in the mountains of Arkansas, I had the best time teasing her in the pool and having long conversations with her about books and school and whatever stuff popped into our heads.

She makes great grades. She donates her time to help other people. She’ll stand up for someone who’s being picked on. She has tons of friends. She loves to ride horses. She loves her dogs. She’s a kind, smart, beautiful young lady. Anyone would be proud to have her as a daughter, and Tom and I are blessed to have her as a niece.

We love her very much, and today she turns sixteen. Happy birthday, Toni!

Legacy Writing 365:40


In our small town there was a women’s dress shop owned and run by a group of elderly ladies. In the days before Lynne and I would spend Saturdays on the town square going from store to store trying to figure out what we could buy with our limited funds (and my limited funds often came from her father, because if she hit him up for a few dollars, he seemed to think he needed to give me money, too–THANKS, I.J.!), I’d wander in and out of stores on my own while my parents were shopping.

In the back of this particular dress shop was a vanity where women could sit and retouch their lipstick, powder their noses, and add another coat of hairspray to their helmet hair. I remember once testing some perfume and hairspray and hearing the old ladies in front whispering about my shameless use of their resources. My mother would have been mortified, but she and my father were long-accustomed to my wandering ways–plus I always told them all the gossip I learned on my excursions. I don’t think they gave a rat’s ass about the gossip, but since I could go days without speaking from behind a book, my voice reassured them I was still alive.

We didn’t purchase things from this shop. For one thing, we could shop at the PX. For another, the clothes were too old for my sister and me and too expensive for my mother. Mother had a friend named Nancy who had contacts all over the Southeast from whom she could buy clothes that hadn’t sold or clothes with small flaws at deep discounts (there were no “outlet malls” in those days). Nancy sold her clothes in a couple of shops, so buying from Nancy, along with being able to sew, enabled Mother to furnish me a season’s worth of clothes for a frugal sum. Even high-ranking NCOs didn’t make a lot of money, and we all know schoolteachers didn’t/don’t.

At some point when I was a little older, my mother and I were walking down the sidewalk, and she stopped to look at a blouse in this store’s window. I could tell she wanted it, so I talked her into going in and trying it on. She balked at the price tag: EIGHTEEN DOLLARS! Doesn’t that seem ridiculous now? But she could feed us for two weeks on eighteen dollars, and she rarely spent money on herself. The blouse went back on the hanger, and we left the store.

BUT… It wasn’t long before her birthday, and I was finally old enough to realize that most husbands are clueless about buying gifts. So I told my father, and we made a secret shopping trip of our own. Looking back, I wonder if I was so excited about the blouse that I gave it away long before she opened it. If so, she sure acted surprised, and my father knew he was off the hook until April (anniversary) and December.


The brown and orange striped blouse in the photo above is THE blouse. She could wear it alone, buttoned up, or over other shirts or shells, with orange pants and brown pants. She had it for years, and sometimes I wore it, too: as seen in this tenth-grade yearbook photo (hi, Vic! hi, Nick!), under my brown suede, fringed jacket that I just recently discovered my sister still has in her closet.

I think we got our, i.e., my father’s, money’s worth out of the birthday blouse. Now if I could only fit into that suede jacket again.

ETA: Original photo of my mother in the blouse was replaced because I found a better one.

Legacy Writing 365:35

My nephew Daniel had this photo taken by his other half- Aimee, and she was generous enough to send it to me and say I could share it here.

Daniel said the reason he folded himself into this car is because the happy dog reminded him of their recently adopted Lamar. Aimee added, “This is what adopted dogs and their families feel like when the dogs get ‘sprung’ from shelters and rescues!”

Aimee knows, because here are their three rescues:


Millie.


Max.


Lamar.

I agree with Aimee. Rescue dogs and their forever families do experience a unique joy. But as far as Daniel getting into the little car, I think a part of him is still this youngster:


Daniel with his mom, Terri.


Daniel with his grandmother, Dorothy.

My happy family is made up of rescued dogs and great nephews and nieces. =)

Legacy Writing 365:34

What I’d like to show you from my first trip to New York City in February 1998 are all the fantastic photos I took of Tim and Timmy and James. The photos from that night eating pizza at Timmy’s and talking about a little project we’d just started that would become the novel It Had to Be You in 2001. Or that amazing night on top of the Empire State Building with Tim and Michael and the great shots I got of them.

But I can’t show you those because I lost the new Canon I’d bought in Manhattan in the back of a cab.

So what I have are photos of views in Central Park and Battery Park and looking out my hotel window shot with my older Canon AE-1 that I hadn’t taken out of my hotel room before my last day in Manhattan because I’d bought that smaller, easier-to-tuck-in-my-coat-pocket camera. Also too-easy-to-slip-OUT-of-my-coat-pocket camera.

Here’s one photo I took from my hotel room looking out at Madison Square Garden.

If I enlarge a detail of it, you can see how a little bit of back-home Texas was with me in New York.


Go Rockets! (I think the Knicks won that game, though.)

I also have plenty of memories. Like James walking my feet off. The Blue Dog Gallery which took us by surprise. Great restaurants. My first time to hail a cab by myself. My first solo subway ride. Seeing places I knew about from decades of TV and movies: Times Square, Union Square, Soho, Greenwich Village, Hell’s Kitchen, Chelsea. How friendly everyone was, which wasn’t what I’d been led to expect in New York. And how women on the housekeeping staff would linger in my room and talk to me because they were intrigued by items I had on my dresser (incense, crystals, rosebuds–my little “get centered” shrine).

Also, my watch died my first day in the city. I could have stepped inside one of many places and had the battery replaced. But Macy’s was just next door, and I grew up thinking of Macy’s and New York as a couple. So Timmy went shopping at Macy’s with me. The watch he picked out is still my main watch all these years later.

The crystal is kind of banged up and the battery’s dead. Should I just buy a new watch? 😉

Legacy Writing 365:33

I could swear I posted this story on my blog before, but a search has turned up nothing. One time my parents spent a vacation at Callaway Gardens. In order not to have to endure the bored and surly teenager forced to go with them, they let me invite Lynne to join us. This was GENIUS, as it meant they got to see all the flowers and crap they wanted to while Lynne and I swam, hung out, found boys to flirt with, etc.

We made only one mistake.

We remembered to take a cassette player along with us so we’d have music. But we failed to pack any tapes. Therefore, all we had was the tape that was already in the player. I was reminded of this by an episode of 30 Rock that Tim and I watched last night.


Here’s a really crappy picture my mother took of Lynne and me that week. Photoshopping has actually enabled me to see things I can’t see on the original photo, like the embroidery Lynne did on her work shirt (our term for chambray shirts–those suckers are expensive as hell now; who works in them?), the way I’m holding my sunglasses in my hand instead of wearing them (I still do this), and the flowered shirt I’m wearing over my knit shirt. That flowered shirt belonged to Lynne’s Cousin George. She stole it from him. In an act of karmic retribution, I stole it from her. I don’t think anyone stole it from me. I think it fell apart from over-wearing and over-washing. I loved that shirt.

If you want to see a better picture from that vacation, I put one on my blog in 2007 in Lynne’s birthday post.


(Dear Jim: I’m pretty sure my mother must have said something like, “Why don’t you ever smile?” before she took this photo.)

Oh, yeah. The tape was Aqualung. I never wanted to hear it again after that vacation, although I did force myself to go to a Jethro Tull concert a few years later.

Legacy Writing 365:32


I am seven.
I’m about to have a really traumatic school year.
But it’s summer and I have no idea.
I remember that swimming suit.
I’m wearing some kind of shirt over the swimming suit.
That’s not my family’s car.
But I think I remember whose car it is.
We were a neighborhood of women and children whose husbands and fathers were deployed overseas.


Debby is twelve.
I think she looks like a baby Mick Jagger.
She’s probably saying, “Hey, you, get off of my bench.”
But that’s okay.
I’ll pay her back later.
If it wasn’t this picnic by a lake, it was another picnic when:
I woke up in the middle of the night…
Sat up…
And threw up watermelon all over her.

I don’t remember it.
But she swears it’s true.

Legacy Writing 365:31

When we were in high school, Lynne’s mother bought her an awesome Canon 35mm SLR. She still has that camera and still takes great shots with it when she wants to use film. It was because of Lynne that I developed an interest in photography. She helped me pick out my first Canon and we used to spend a lot of time shooting together. But that was years later. Before she was my go-to person for film and camera advice, she was my go-to photographer, especially for black and white.

I was talking to Jim (my writing partner, because there are two Jims who comment on this blog) last night and asked him why he made a crack about me showing my teeth in a previous post of adolescent me. Apparently, he’s under the impression that I was always an angsty, solemn teenager who didn’t smile.

Here’s one of my favorite photos, taken by Lynne, probably when I was fifteen or sixteen, that shows I COULD smile. What makes it a favorite is it really captures how I dressed for about two years. Jeans, dark-colored T-shirt, man’s chambray or button-down dress shirt over it all. It’s only because of this photo that I realized why a character I’ve been writing dresses that way. She’s got just that little bit of teenage me.


I wish I could see that big belt buckle better.

Button Sunday AND Legacy Writing 365:29

A bit of Alabama history: Yeilding’s Department Store was founded by F.B. Yeilding of Birmingham. He acquired the first store that would become Yeilding’s from William Hood when Hood married Frank’s sister Vilanta. Yeilding sent his six sons to Birmingham Southern College, and a chapel on campus is named for him.

I suppose this button may have come into my collection via their store in Birmingham’s Eastwood Mall. Lynne’s mother worked for an architect who had an office in Birmingham as well as the small city closest to our hometown. Sometimes she’d have to work in the Birmingham office, and when she did, she’d take Lynne and me and drop us for the day at Eastwood Mall. Eastwood wasn’t large by later mall standards, but it was larger than anything we had, so it was a big time for two early-teen girls. It was the state’s first indoor, air-conditioned mall. In its early days, it didn’t have what came to be called “anchor stores,” but later it boasted Pizitz (which became McRae’s), Parisian, JC Penney, and Yeilding’s department stores. I can also remember, at various times, Service Merchandise, S.S. Kresge (which would later become K Mart), Orange Julius, a cafeteria, Pasquale’s Pizza, Hallmark, a record store (where we could pick up the list of top songs being played on WVOK), a bookstore, and several shoe stores. There were also stores that sold pianos and organs, and we could always hear the sounds of someone playing mixed with splashing from the fountains. Just across from the mall was Eastwood Plaza, and Lynne and I would go there, too, mainly because of a store–World Bazaar?–where we could find odd items within our meager price range. And coming or going, there was always a stop at Krispy Kreme for donuts.

Eastwood Mall began to struggle when Century Plaza Mall was built just across the street. Ultimately, Eastwood was razed and a super Walmart is on the site now. And Century Plaza closed the last of its stores in 2009. These days, as retailers struggle and cut back on staff, the concept of “extra service” seems like as quaint a part of our past as early malls.

Legacy Writing 365:28


Here Lynne and I are posing with my sweet Aunt Lola at the punch bowl at my sister’s wedding reception. I believe I own more photos of Lynne’s eyes closed than opened.

For about a hundred years of my childhood, the only thing I would eat for breakfast was Cocoa Puffs. But when we went to visit Uncle Gerald and Aunt Lola, their grocery store didn’t sell Cocoa Puffs. So she always bought a box of Cocoa Krispies just for me. I loved her for that and all the other ways she was good to me.

I still remember that yellow dress I’m wearing in this photo. My mother made it. But I really love Aunt Lola’s dress. In fact, I may have unconsciously…


…had Aunt Lola as my muse a couple of years ago.