A Wednesday post for the future

Next year at Christmas, when I unpack decorations, and after the tree has been decorated for days, when I suddenly shriek, “AAIIEEEE!!! WHERE ARE MY BEATLES ORNAMENTS?!? They are GONE, GONE!”

Maybe someone will say, “Simmer down, Becky. You didn’t put them with the other ornaments. Instead, you gently wrapped them in tissue paper and put them in your Beatles ‘lunchboxes’ that will never be used as lunchboxes but are in front of your oblivious face every time you sit at your laptop and write.”

Thank you, whoever remembers this better than I will.

Tiny Tuesday!

Who knows, I may talk about Christmas stuff a few more days, or maybe not again at all until some random and incongruous date in the future.

Every few years, I seem compelled to go through our decorations and purge some because we have too many or they no longer align with my interests. I’ve never been a theme tree person, doing everything in red or using bows or paying homage to some era or city (I did once buy ornaments and do a Mardi Gras tree, though at that time, I’d never been to New Orleans or to Mardi Gras anywhere, but the colors were nice and the ornaments were cheap and we were on a tighter budget in those years).

I like my trees to be weird and wonderful, a hodgepodge of things we like and things other people give us. The ornaments are fabric, metal, glass, plastic, ceramic, and wood. Some are expensive (these are most often the gifts) and hang in harmony side by side with the damaged ones I buy at after-Christmas sales as well as the beautiful ones that catch light and shimmer. Apparently, I like my trees to be diverse, quirky, slightly unpredictable, offbeat, profound, funny, regal, and classic all at the same time. Maybe they remind me of the most interesting people I know.

After Christmas this year, I didn’t purge anything. I mostly reorganized it so decorating will be easier next time. One of the things I did was put a lot of the stuff we’ve gotten from Tom’s mother/parents through the years into the same bin, even if it’s not all for decoration. Some of it is stuff that she saved from Tom’s childhood. I may get more than one post out of this, so I’ll start with this little wooden zoo.

The animals are TINY. For whatever reason, I decided I wanted to put it together, so I took a break from UNdecorating and sat at the breakfast room table to do that, while Tom and/or Debby were in and out.

“Some of the fence rails are missing,” I told Tom, “and at least one is shorter than the others. They keep falling out of the corner pieces.”

“I think it’s designed to help children learn patience,” he suggested.

“It’s not doing much for this Aries adult.”

When I finally got the pens up (having to let them share one set of rails because of the missing pieces), I turned my attention to the animals.

“I can’t even determine what some of these animals are,” I said.

“That one’s a squirrel,” Debby said and pointed.

“Then that squirrel is as big as whatever this black dog-looking thing is. In fact, I think this entire zoo is pretty sketchy. The giraffe and elephant may go together, but what is this? A donkey?”

More discussion ensued, but I think I finally figured it out. It is a black wolf, just a jump over a couple of slender rails away from a sheep. The donkey is there to stop him and save the sheep. There’s logic here.

So, Great Aunt Francis who bought this zoo in New York for wee Tom, if it’s supposed to be an allegory for how disparate creatures must coexist, be hard to judge by their appearance, help curb one another’s impulses to be predatory, and not always find themselves in the classiest or most stable place, then you chose well.

In truth, this whole getup is also a lot like my Christmas trees.

Photo Friday, No. 786

Current Photo Friday theme: Best of 2021

Is this iPhone photo technically the best photo I shot this year? Probably not. But after quarantining separately in the same city for 16 months, seeing The Brides walk up with Pepper to share hugs, dinner, Starbucks, and the precious gift of safe, vaccinated time together makes this my top photo of 2021.

Wednesday’s Child

Today, I was dumb and looked back at this date on the first few years of my blog, beginning with LiveJournal, which I started in 2004. I didn’t manage to get all the way to 2011, when I migrated over to this blog, before I had to stop.

Today is the date John Lennon was murdered in 1980. I posted a coloring page with some of his lyrics on Instagram and had to turn off comments because I was getting spoilers about the new Let It Be documentary. Of course I watched the original movie, but it’s been a very long time, and I’d like to see this one (which Tom and I plan to watch in segments this month, hopefully) without knowing any of the new material and having forgotten a lot of what I’ve seen before.

John Lennon was born on Wednesday, October 9, 1040; that date reminded me of a beautiful non-Beatles song I listened to again recently. “Wednesday’s Child.” I’ll link to it at the bottom of this post. It doesn’t matter how many years have passed. The year 1980 was a brutal one for me personally, and for it to end so miserably for Riley and me still leaves me raw when I think about it.

There are a lot of tough dates for me in December, and I think that’s why I finally began making a bigger deal of Christmas. The novel A Coventry Christmas starts with the main character saying, “I hate Christmas.” I once said that to my coworkers at a job, and one of the guys said, “I worry about you.” A few years later, when I was asked to write a Christmas romance, I said it again, only this time Timothy answered, “There’s your first line.” Writers… I love them, and those writers include Timothy J. Lambert, Riley Morris, and John Lennon.

Today, I added more ornaments to the tree from a bin we hadn’t opened yet. This one made me laugh when I found it. It had to go up.


The Bella and Edward ornament.


And this one. Tom was born on Christmas Day, and his uncle, who was a baker, put this on his first birthday cake. After we were married, Tom’s mother gave us a lot of special mementos like this for our holiday trees.


I’ll keep adding to the tree probably until it’s time for everything to be taken down. Because if yesterdays can make me melancholy, it’s up to me to make and appreciate better days now.

I’m Monday’s child. Riley was Tuesday’s child. John Lennon was Wednesday’s child.

Monday’s child is fair of face
Tuesday’s child is full of grace
Thursday’s child has far to go
Whoa, oh-oh-oh
Mm-mm-mm
Hmm, mm-mm-mm
Friday’s child is lovin’ and givin’
And Saturday’s child must work for a livin’
A child that’s born on the sabbath day
Whoa, oh-oh-oh
Is fair andw ise, happy and gay
Wednesday’s child is full of woe
Whoa, oh-oh-oh
Woe I know
I am Wednesday’s child

Written by Mark Lindsay, Keith Allison, and Jerry Allison

Rest in peace, Keith Allison.

Happy Thanksgiving!

I know some of you don’t live in the U.S., and not everyone in the U.S. celebrates this holiday.

In this particular year, Thanksgiving falls on November 25, which is recognized as the National Day of Mourning. This day isn’t new; it was established in 1970. Here’s a bit of info:

The United American Indians of New England (UAINE) created this holiday to publicize the democide and misrepresentation of Native Americans. The UANIE is a Native-led, self-supporting organization advocating for the recognition of struggles of Native Americans and political prisoners.

Now that everything has to be turned into a culture war, I’ve seen plenty of “the libs are trying to cancel Thanksgiving,” and “here comes the woke culture again” online. (Who or what benefits from stirring up grievances between people? Ratings? Viewers? Listeners? Readers? Membership drives? I always heed Watergate’s Deep Throat: Follow the money.)

I remember the narrative I was taught about the Pilgrims and the Indians, but I was a child. As I aged, that story changed like Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, the Legend of Johnny Appleseed, and the Legend of Sleepy Hollow. A holiday with a bit of accuracy in its origin evolved into a larger perspective of theme, recognition, or celebration.

Thanksgiving, of all the holidays, became my favorite. It was the time I was most likely to see family who didn’t live nearby. It was the time I’d be home from college and see not only family, but friends I missed. It was the holiday when I might have a little extra time to travel so I could enjoy my nieces and nephews. Even in school, or later when travel wasn’t an option, we could host friends in our home who might feel alone and far away from loved ones during Thanksgiving.

It’s a holiday without the stress of shopping and trying to find gifts on a limited budget that people may not want or need. A holiday when you’re not forced to be with people, sometimes true (IN MY EXPERIENCE, not necessarily yours) of Christmas and New Year’s Eve, for example but choose to be with them. It’s a holiday when we can derive from whatever stories we were taught these ideas: Sharing. Peace. Community.

I feel like the people who are complaining about woke-ness and cancel culture aren’t actually doing anything different at Thanksgiving from what they ever did. Still fighting and loving their families. Still eating too much and complaining about being stuffed. Still watching ballgames or sitting around telling stories about work and hunting and kids and grandkids and what happened in their own personal histories. Still enjoying a quiet day alone or with a significant other watching something on Netflix, reading a book, maybe taking a walk outside with the dog if the weather allows.

My hope for you is that you have something to be thankful for and a moment to reflect on that.


Timothy and Debby getting ready to eat.


Tom and I happy to have a clean house, full table, and family, friends, and dogs to love.